December 9th, 2009
06:00 PM ET

Why do some successful people throw it all away?



FROM CNN's Jack Cafferty:

As the Tiger Woods scandal continues to grow like a Chia pet on steroids, here's the latest:

  • Reports put the number of alleged mistresses at eleven and counting
  • Documents from the night of the crash show investigators suspected that Woods may have been driving under the influence
  • According to Nielsen, television ads featuring Woods have disappeared from prime-time broadcast TV and many cable channels

Woods makes $110 million a year from endorsements and tournaments... and in part he was selling an image. But that image has sustained more damage in the last two weeks than his Cadillac Escalade: One index that measures how celebrities influence shoppers shows Woods' ranking dropping from sixth to 24th place.

This makes Tiger Woods the latest in a long line of public figures - almost always men - who work hard to build successful lives and careers only to turn around and throw it all in a garbage can.

The website PoliticsDaily.com has a piece called "The Last Tiger Woods Question" that asks: "Why did he think he wouldn't get caught?" We all know the drill... from Bill Clinton to Eliot Spitzer, Rudy Giuliani, John Edwards and South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford... people who are so controlled and accomplished in other areas of their lives, yet risk it all.

Experts say a lot of times these men simply don't think - that lust makes people irrational. Or, they think they're smarter, or somehow different or the woman in question is special, or they know other men who got away with it and think they can too. Wrong.

Here’s my question to you: Why do some successful people choose to throw it all away?

Interested to know which ones made it on air?

B. from Chicago writes:
When a man or a woman decides to break a promise, they sacrifice their moral code, their integrity. Breaking your vows to a spouse is a decision, not an irrational act. To paraphrase J.R. Ewing, "Once you lose your integrity, the rest is easy."

Those who cheat on their spouse don't choose to throw it all away, since when they decide to break their promises, they believe they can't be caught. And since their integrity is gone, lying to cover-up is easy.

Jamie from Plantation, Florida writes:
Throwing "it all" away implies that there is some intense worth to those things – fame, money, power – and that the loss of "it all" is a bad thing. The truth of the matter is that happiness is not always directly linked to those things that we tend to hold in highest regard in this society. Large, close families with multiple generations working together and spending time together tend to be happier than the average person.

Larry writes:
Successful people are, after all, just people. They do the same things that other people do. They don't choose to throw everything away. They just behave like the rest of us, and suffer more when we all find out about it.

David writes:
Survivor syndrome. Most understand they don't deserve what they have and the guilt drives them to destruction. Then on the other hand, you have the ones who think they created the universe and it is theirs to do with as they please.

Jay from Flemingsburg, Kentucky writes:
Tiger was never allowed to live like a normal kid; all he has ever known is golf. Also, he accumulated great wealth at an age when he didn’t know how to deal with it. He was destined to have many problems in his life.

Al from Plant City, Florida writes:
Jack, You can't be serious. I'll give you one guess.

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soundoff (152 Responses)
  1. Lance, Ridgecrest, Ca

    Jack, come on, people make mistakes. For crying out loud, Clinton had sex with an intern, lied to the public, and still finished out his term. How about getting off Tiger's back. He is young, and young people sometimes do stupid things, look at your life and tell me you never made a mistake. Let's move on and let the man try to salvage what may be left of his marriage, and straighten out his life. He still has a lot of time to rebuild his image, and life is all about learning from one's mistakes.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:36 pm |
  2. Ryan, Galesburg IL

    Perhaps after years of being an idol and icon, he thought it would be more palatable to Americans sensibilities to be irrational, wreckless and damaging to everyone around him. He's a Republican, Jack!

    December 9, 2009 at 5:36 pm |
  3. Joel

    Jack, it is called greed. They want everything and don't think about the consequences. Succesful people will eventually have some kind of scandal one way or another, even if the scandal is greed based or not.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:37 pm |
  4. Eugene, Myers Flat, CA

    Hey Jack,
    Some successful people seem to throw it all away because they're only human. If I had Tiger's fame, my name would have been in the paper many times. Tiger's probably just glad she used an iron instead of a wood.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:38 pm |
  5. Steve Canada

    They are an income source to a bunch of "hangers on"..No one ever says no to them, and by doing that, there are no checks and balances in their life..Its "yes boss" all the time. Tiger has been told he is "special" ever since he was born. There are a few more like that out there

    December 9, 2009 at 5:38 pm |
  6. Jason, Koloa Kauai

    Remember when Andre Agassi did those "Image is Everything" camera commerials when he was young? Now, almost twenty years later, Agassi has finally matured enough to know what's really important in life. You and the media Jack, are still perpetuating the myth that image matters, whether it's Tiger or whoever. Most people I know are aware enough to realize what's real and what is made up and we don't make shopping decisions based on the morality of a celebrity spokesperson. Besides I'm sure if Tiger never did another endorsement for the rest of his life somehow he'd survive on the hundreds of millions of dollars he's already made. The only thing Tiger has really thrown away is a meaningless fantasy image.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:42 pm |
  7. Michael and Diane Phoenix AZ

    It is the same thing with pro-athletes also...Too much money and too much time that they don't know how to handle it. Nick Cage is another case in point...too much to spend and not enough brains how to handle all the fame and money.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:44 pm |
  8. Anthony.....Swedesboro, NJ

    Tiger Woods was never a child. He was a robot programmed to play golf by a demanding father much like Joe Jackson did with Michael. This programming reminds me of the East Germans and the Soviet Union who dominated the Olympics by separating their youth from their parents and sending them to a sports Gulag. Remember that Andrew Agassi recently admitted his hatred of tennis but was forced into it by a demanding parent.
    When children, such as the child stars now living in misery, are forced to become adults, they become children when they're adults. Why else would a man like Tiger degenerate into a sex addict?

    December 9, 2009 at 5:46 pm |
  9. Lynn, Columbia, Mo.

    Why do others make a big deal about it? Non celebs throw it all away too. Why do we all love gossip? He wasn't hurt too badly in the wreck. End of story. The rest is none of our business. Self-rightiousness got us into two wars and a failing economy. Leave him alone. He's suffering enough (and so is his mother-in-law).

    December 9, 2009 at 5:56 pm |
  10. Patriot

    Well Jack. Its Still nobody's business what happens between husband and Wife.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:56 pm |
  11. ben stockton, calif

    i always looked at tiger as arole model and now he is just like all the other sports figures that cheat on their wives like kobe bryant and numerous nba players. i expect any day that it will reveal that all along he may have been on steroids or some performance enhancing drug.. with his mega bucks he could possibly pay his way out of it discreetly..as a golfer who enjoys the sport tremendously, tiger should come clean like the televangelist who cried on tv "I HAVE SINNED'.maybe in some small way the public will give him a break..

    December 9, 2009 at 5:57 pm |
  12. Antonio from Washington D.C.

    Being famous does not mean being smart!

    December 9, 2009 at 5:57 pm |
  13. Jim in Alabama

    Jack, I think it's because of a number of reasons. First of all, they find that money, power and success doesn't bring happiness. Secondly, Tiger was probably driven to achieve the top of his profession, which he has reached at a young age. Then many times, boredom,
    disillusionment and frustration sets in when happiness and contentment escapes you. He's going to have to grow up and if he doesn't, he's going to have a rough few years.

    December 9, 2009 at 5:58 pm |
  14. Gail, Plano,Texas

    I don't think they consciously throw it away, Jack. They just think they are invincible, that they will never get caught. U could ask that same question to bank robbers and murderers like Scott Peterson. He never thought Lacey's body would wash up. But it did. Some people too, love the risk, the challenge, then when their actions are uncovered, they deny. Such cowards. In my opinion, the governor of SC is the biggest doofus. He found his soulmate? Give me a break. How about finding out of work Carolinians a job?

    December 9, 2009 at 5:59 pm |
  15. Michael, Pensacola, FL

    Throw it all away is a matter of perspective. Before these affairs came out, he was the number one golfer in the world, after these affairs came out, he was the number one golfer in the world. Do you really think we looked to Tiger for moral character and virtue before all this or because he was one bad dude with a golf club! The media and the public build people up to tear them down later.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:02 pm |
  16. Michael Roepke - Dallas, TX

    I always thought of you as a newsman and as a newsman you know that "dog bites man." is not news. How did "athlete has extra-marital affair" become news?

    December 9, 2009 at 6:03 pm |
  17. The Broker.

    Remember Steve McQueen? "Monkey see, Monkey do! We all came from the Ape!

    December 9, 2009 at 6:04 pm |
  18. cathy scotland

    Hi Jack,

    You say men don't think. They do...but eeeruuuum...not..with their heads, but other parts.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:04 pm |
  19. Talitha

    When you have everything, there's nothing to strive for, so life becomes boring and empty, so you try to fill it with "stuff"(women). You tend to think because you have money, nothing bad can touch you.

    Walnut, Ca.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:05 pm |
  20. Ken in NC

    Remember the old expression, "you don't miss your water until the well runs dry". Well in ones success most men do not realize the value of that success until it is gone.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:05 pm |
  21. Meg from Troy, Ohio

    I believe super successful people–like Tiger Woods–think that they are so rich, so powerful, and so talented that the regular rules of ethical, moral, compassionate human behavior don't apply to them. They think that their money and their lofty position in the world entitle(key word) them to have whatever they want. They lose sight of the important things in life–like family, friends, loyalty, and love.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:06 pm |
  22. Thom Richer

    They throw it away for the same reasons our government (Congress) fail to live up to their oaths...greed and plain old selfishness. When money, power and fame are your ambitions and measure of success, then it is only a matter of time before corruption and deceit become a way of life. Once you lose site of what is truly valuable in life, family, spouse, children, love, compassion for fellow man, honor, dedication to duty, equality and respect for all mankind, then nothing has value or purpose. The curious thing about those who are exposed is the sorrow and regret they express only after being caught...never before. Curious.

    Thom Richer
    Negaunee, MI

    December 9, 2009 at 6:08 pm |
  23. Ralph Spyer chicago Il

    As you make your bed,so you must lie on it.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:12 pm |
  24. Marion/Alabama

    They think like politicans,they feel they are worshipped so much that any thing they do is OK.Just look at how the celeberties are treated in California when they break the law.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:13 pm |
  25. dick from indiana

    It takes two to tango and quite frankly this isn't anyone's business except those doing the tangoing. Folks are hardwired to eat, sleep, breathe and reproduce. And quite frankly I don't enjoy watching or learning about other people doing those things.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:13 pm |
  26. Jeff Devine

    It is the complacency of success that drives human nature to want to fail. We are self destructive in nature. With out the knowledge and understanding about this fact, successful people will continue their destructive ways.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:21 pm |
  27. Luci - Pekin, IL.

    For a Romp in the Hay with 12 Bar maids, I guess.
    A pretty wife and two children, was it worth it??

    December 9, 2009 at 6:22 pm |
  28. John, Fort Collins, CO

    My theory is that many men who achieve fame, prestige, and boundless wealth move into a new plane where conventional rules no longer apply to them. They take the term "entitlement" to a new level where they feel their hard work and talents make them deserving of anything and everything they desire: multiple jets, luxury cars, homes, and exciting sex lives (not necessarily in that order). It dosen't help that most of them have cheap bimbos willingly available at every twist and turn in their lives. My condolences to their wives.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:22 pm |
  29. Marie

    Some people do this Jack because they never get a sense of responsibility! Tiger has lived in only Tiger world because he was raised like a prodigy, but all he does is hit some balls on the course; why do people honor him like a God I ask.? He lacks character, and honor and all that is needed when you have lived an experienced life!

    December 9, 2009 at 6:23 pm |
  30. Terry from Illinois

    Power ! Control ! Only wealthy Americans, over paid CEO's, over paid super star athletes, movie stars and do nothing politicians get caught doing this stuff. They are all power hungry freaks wanting to control everything, including women...
    None of them deserve the money they make so I have no pity for their shame...
    Majority of Americans working for $10- $20 an hour don't do this stuff because of the extreme cost of extramarital affairs so its always the rich guy...

    December 9, 2009 at 6:23 pm |
  31. Scott Stodden

    Because Jack they believe that all the money in the world will keep them out of trouble no matter what they do knowing darn good and well that media is out and about now more than ever, if your a celebrity making the kind of money Tiger Woods makes and you do something like this we all know the media is going to run with this story. Tiger is supposed to be a role model and congratulations to the media for calling him out and showing us the real Tiger, instead of calling him Tiger we now call him Cheetah as my girl Wendy Williams said on her show Monday night, How you dooooooin Tiger?

    Scott Stodden (Freeport,Illinois)

    December 9, 2009 at 6:24 pm |
  32. frank

    They're not like you and me Jack. They have people telling them at their beck and call. Telling them how great they are. So they believe it. Then they go too far, happens to sports figures all the time. I remember in college football team had this mentality, they were there for football not classes.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:28 pm |
  33. Guy from Hawaii

    Aloha Jack,
    I don't believe there is a conscious choice to "throw it all away." Not getting caught is the "objective." Tiger Woods is a great, great golfer...that's it! I love to watch him and still will. The fans, the media, the corporate sponsors make him Bigger than Life! The most interesting thing moving forward is "what will he be thinking during his back-swing?"
    Furthermore, this is another great example of how our Country has made great strides in "being a free country." Regardless of race, creed or color you can get it all and throw it all away.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:33 pm |
  34. Jasmine in Germany

    The better question is "why do some professional men throw it all away? Because they're not as smart as women, Jack.

    Like all members of the animal kingdom, humans have the innate drive to reproduce (species' "survival of the fittest" comes into play). But the human male falls victim to the "veni, vidi, vici" complex. Tsk, tsk. After all these years of species development, he still can't use both sides of his brain simultaneously.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:34 pm |
  35. Bill

    I don't see the importance of Tiger Woods having an accident . After all, no one was hurt except him. Trying to make a big story out of this is just plain stupid. If in fact he did have an affair with another woman, that's between Tiger and his wife and no one else, maybe, just maybe hehd a good reason, I don't know and nobody else doe either.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:34 pm |

    Because successful people look for trophies (wives and husbands) to sport around on their arm and in public, not someone they are compatible with. No body knows what goes on behind closed doors. I honestly believe that the "for better or for worse" clause in the wedding vowels gives men the right to cheat, at least they probably think that.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:34 pm |
  37. pat stewart

    Complete determination pushes talented people to reach their goals. This ability also leaves them open to those seven deadly sins. When they find themselves in the position of losing all they have, they know they've overstepped the line and so here comes the media to inflate a person's inadequacies for entertainment. Our media sure has lost their perspective on what is real news. Leave Tiger alone guys, he's got a lot on his personal back.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:35 pm |
  38. pat

    because they can! more important a question would be why does the media swarm on a cheap and discusting story such as this?
    s it because it sells soap? or is it because the world and the media love to bring down an icon. Everyone who is involved in this b.s. has forgotten a wise saying "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"

    December 9, 2009 at 6:35 pm |
  39. Bill

    I don't see the importance of Tiger Woods having an accident . After all, no one was hurt except him. Trying to make a big story out of this is just plain stupid. If in fact he did have an affair with another woman, that's between Tiger and his wife and no one else, maybe, just maybe he had a good reason, I don't know and nobody else doe either.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:36 pm |
  40. John Ca.

    Who Cares? I do not let Woods be.

    John Ca.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:36 pm |
  41. Bill in Penna

    What has been thrown away? Mr. Woods is still the best at golf. He still has his investments and contracts and will win many a prize in the future. Now he has free publicity too.
    The PR folks too will do OK and some attorneys too.
    Sad there is no real news about climate, deficits, health care, taxes, the future of our tax increases to come and the coming inflation but those are too trivial for us.
    Where is Octo-Mom when you need a lift or the Salahis. Oh, I forgot we have the White House Social Secretary now in charge of presidential security. Now there is a news story to fuel Glenn and Rush for days of lies and hate mongering. Or the professional stupid acting Stanford graduate and Oxford graduate student reading phone dictionary entries to the great unwashed.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:46 pm |
  42. Richard

    Jack its very simple; they have been drinking too much of their own kool aid. In Tiger's case, he seems to enjoy being in the rough more than on the course (main stream of life).

    December 9, 2009 at 6:47 pm |
  43. vern-anaheim,ca

    jack,i suppose they think they are above the law and will not get punished or found out for doing illegal and immoral activities

    December 9, 2009 at 6:51 pm |
  44. Gary - Woodhaven, Michigan

    You ask why do successful people choose to throw it all away, because when put into the proper perspective, these people were never successful to begin with, only people living an external existence.

    Success in today’s way of life is a false measurement based on possessions, influence, and perception. For example Tiger, he believes the more women he beds, the greater the success he is. Whereas success should be the measure of the reverence we have on human life and how we treat one another.

    Islam, Judaism, Christianity, proclaims our degree in the practice of faith, hope, and love as the measurements of our worth. Buddhism similarly teaches that compassion, gratitude, and love we bestow are the measurements of our worth as human beings, thus consequently our success in this life.

    The most successful living humans were Mohammad, Abraham, Jesus, and Buddha. Were not humans such as Mother Theresa, Gandhi, even CNN’s ten heroes’, greater successes for mankind than a Tiger Woods, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Oprah, and so on, no matter the percentage of income they donate? They are more successful, if we look upon human existence in the proper light and reverence.

    Faith, Hope, Compassion, Gratitude, and Love, when etched into our souls, will be each of our successes, it is then we can all help to change the world. As far as Tiger, he couldn’t even have this reverence for his own family, how successful could he have been?

    December 9, 2009 at 6:52 pm |
  45. Lynn

    Low self imagine or naivete mixed with the spot light of success and sometimes the vessel is just too weak to hold the brew – there may even be the temptation to git off the speeding ride even if they have to jump headlong into oblivion. I can't imagine having a camera up my butt 24/7 and expectations of being perfect all the time. This is a Woods' family matter, give it a rest.
    Lynn, San Diego, CA

    December 9, 2009 at 6:53 pm |
  46. Rich McKinney, Texas

    Jack I think that Psychologists such as Freud and Jung contemplated this phenomena a long time ago and both cam up with the same answer? Who the hell knows? Power, wealth, and fame are things people strive for all of their lives. Few achieve them all. Those that do are still human despite their power, their wealth, and their fame. The Fans puts them on a pedestal. The sad part is when they fall off that pedestal and shatter. It not only destroys the star but it also destroys the illusion held by their fans. For the children I feel remorse.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:54 pm |
  47. Delois

    he who is without sin let them cast the first stone.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:54 pm |
  48. Matthew from Renton, WA

    Actually Jack, it is a scientifically proven fact that men don't think straight when they've got their...ahem, lust goggles on. While this does not excuse Tiger's actions as his image was a good part why he was marketable, it certainly would explain the constant sorry parade of those caught in power getting caught in such tawdry situations.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:56 pm |
  49. David in Raleigh, NC

    Their egos get in the way. Their power allows them to control everything in their life. Unfortunately for these men, nobody can control a woman who's been cheated on.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:58 pm |
  50. Hani

    Minneapolis, Minnesota
    They obviously think they will not receive severe punishments because they are famous. They're humans regardless of how much money they have. They should be held accountable for all of their actions.

    December 9, 2009 at 6:59 pm |
  51. Aaron Peavler From Bliss Idaho

    Tiger is turning into a crackpot with Christmas coming people get stressed out. It is just stress Tiger needs to take a brake.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:01 pm |
  52. Lee in WY

    Jack: Are we talking Tiger Woods here, or Nicholas Cage? Or Sarah Palin or Dick Cheney? You're right, I don't understand the question.......

    December 9, 2009 at 7:03 pm |
  53. Becky

    It is so rare that a very wealthy, successful, powerful person maintains his integrity. I guess they feel invincible.


    Murfreesboro, TN

    December 9, 2009 at 7:04 pm |
  54. Delois

    they think and they care,but they are human they make mistakes we as people just don't know how to forgive, we rather see them fall and at the botton instead of forgiving from nc

    December 9, 2009 at 7:04 pm |
  55. WWeeks NC

    Simple, they get to the point where they "think" they are above all accounting and responsibility. They really believe (as a thief) that they are too smart to get caught. They forget they are only human and not super man with a cape. People like Tiger can whine all they like about privacy but when the people pay for tickets, and buy goods that Woods sponsor, he lost the right to privacy. He is owned by the public.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:07 pm |
  56. Pete - Augusta Ga

    Narcissism trumps all other brain functions (rational thinking, consideration of consequences, conscience, guilt, etc). These people are quite confident they are above accepted rules of behavior and protected – their power, money & handlers constantly reinforce their belief of infallibility.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:08 pm |
  57. Kooky in CA

    It’s called stupidity. Once these people get used to having everything they want they lose sight of discriminating between what they should have and what they shouldn’t have. There is no wrong, everything is right. Those that haven’t thrown it away are smart enough to set personal limits and are able to step back from themselves and see where they are going at the moment and maintain a rational lifestyle. Those that don’t set limits on themselves don’t realize they are in a downward spiral until they hit bottom.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:09 pm |
  58. John, Fort Collins, CO

    In light of the recent scadal I'm sure if Tiger had it to do over he would he would contain his excitement to kissing trophies instead of new and exciting women. But he didn't, and he ruined his family and his life. But at least he still has millions of dollars for whatever that is worth.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:09 pm |
  59. Anthony

    Pure stupidity

    December 9, 2009 at 7:10 pm |
  60. ABC

    the media needs to mind its own business

    December 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm |
  61. Mr. Kelly Golden


    Because "some successful people are men, and men have two brains. The lower is the stronger. It's amazing that an unrealistic image is worth 100 million a year....people love those rose colored glasses

    Louisville, CO

    December 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm |
  62. Ian of Atlanta

    This is america jack, where anybody can be a king. A kings gotta have a harem right?

    December 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm |
  63. Ed

    Big Success = Big Money = Big Ego =BIG STUPID

    December 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm |
  64. Eric

    Have you seen the pictures of these 11 women!?!


    December 9, 2009 at 7:11 pm |
  65. Mike from Calgary

    Give Tiger a break! Rihanna didn't speak about her beating at the hands of her significant other for six months! Tiger was so traumatized that he raced away from danger at 2AM without taking the time to even put his shoes on. His body is wracked, his faced was mauled and he might had this accident, jokingly I could say to help his wife save face. It's amazing how the victim here, as with Rihanna, goes out of the way to save their attacker from having to account for their violence!
    Tiger should not be the one charged by the police – he should be the compainant!
    Spousal abuse and violence is no joke!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:21 pm |
  66. MS

    Because they are blind.
    Verginia, Alexandria

    December 9, 2009 at 7:21 pm |
  67. Susan McLean

    It's pretty simple Jack

    December 9, 2009 at 7:22 pm |
  68. Joe Duncan

    First let me say that I think Woods and all his mistresses share the responsibility equally for their actions. Second he is selfish and morally immature and irresponsible and his "ladies" are all home wreckers or gold diggers. Most people agree with these points. What about our society and legal system that allows a woman to lure a powerful or rich man into a situation like this, then to basically blackmail or extort money from him by hiring a lawyer and threatening to go public.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:22 pm |
  69. Lindsey t

    These women are what he Dreamed of and deprived before he became a pro golfer. He is just making up for what he has missed out is past!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:22 pm |
  70. J. C.

    A male’s desire to spread his seed frequently trumps all common sense. Just look at rams butting heads or roosters fighting to the death. Or better yet, look at Hugh Grant. The world famous movie star was dating cover girl Elizabeth Hurley but still he couldn’t resist paying to have sex with an ugly, overweight hooker.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:22 pm |
  71. mike saunders

    I do not think that all is thrown away as each of ythe people cited are all rich people. In most casae the spouses remain. I guess they are willing to put up with their husbands, after all there is a lot to lose financially. That is the message these women are passing on, so why be faithful.i don't agree with what they do but I see why people keep repeating the same sins: nothing happens. The people you cited have enough"screw you" money.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:22 pm |
  72. Duane Camille

    Hi mr, cafferty,
    listen, imnot really a golf fan, but i know how famous tiger is, dont you thing the the more the media is after him the more he will stay inside? i believe that this kind of issue is his private lefe, between him and his wife, he didnt cheat on golf, thats his own business, trust me all those people who are looking forward to know about tiger's private life, their marriage is not bettter thatn tiger, so leave that guy alone, i wish to be on your show cnn, i hope one day.thank you,

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  73. Terry

    Tiger has been golfing since age 3. This makes him proficient at golf. All this practice and work does not guarantee he will act with intelligence, just that he may be a good swinger.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  74. ken, NJ

    Because they can.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  75. Sandra - Toronto Canada

    I think it is all about risk taking. To be successful, one typcially takes risks. The more one takes, the more lucky or unlucky he/she may become. You can get immune to the downside of risk, ie, have been so successful because of the risks that you don't think anything bad will happen. How else can you explain such behaviour? No one consiously sabaotoges themselves.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  76. Bruce

    It's simple. It's in our DNA. Isn't that what Adam (and Eve) did in the garden? They had everything and threw it away. Freewill means "choice" and often our choices do us in.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  77. Jon

    What he did, if he did it was wrong no question about that. The issue with these men is they have been focused since their early childhood about becoming great athletes or politician they never got to do the things regular which includes dating. By the time they are married trying to maintain that quote on quote upright family time has gone by, then they decide to go back and relive the lost time. But I believe the media is hypocritical to say these men have issue, everything is sold with sexual innuendos, when people in society they falls into the trap the media jumps on them, after making money of the ads, that encourages society to such things. Now to expect anything different from these men that red blood flows through their veins like everybody else in the world is asking too much. They are just MEN.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  78. Anthony M. in VA

    Jack, there is an interesting phenomenon that occurs when people accumulate large sums of money. Money does not change who we are... it exposes the true character of the individual. When you couple this with that other opiate... fame, many cannot handle the responsibility.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  79. Joe

    What Tiger Woods did to his family was despicable, but this is a private matter and we should give his family the privacy they deserve. As for Governor Spitzer and President Clinton it was an issue when their actions led them to break the law, but people chose instead to focus on the more salacious aspects of their actions. With Governor Sanford he left the state without telling anyone where he could be reached in case of emergency.
    As for the question at hand, when you get used to succes you often gain a false sense invulnerability. Even the most successful among us should remember they too lead lives of imperfection marked by personal foibles and shortcomings. Despite their success they too are still human, warts and all.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  80. robert

    He got money from gm for his good standing he should have to give it all back before he gives it to his new exwife

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  81. Cindy

    Because they can, and their handlers, in maintaining job security, smooth the way for them.

    If any of them had the integrity to tell him it's wrong, they would've been fired.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  82. Jim- Port Charlotte, Fl.

    Jack; These people are successful but unhappy. They seek happiness by looking for love or sex. They may also become acholics and gamblers, race cars, sail boats around the world etc. They take high risks seeking happiness, and money and fame enable them to do so.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:23 pm |
  83. Bill Buttuls; Lytton B.C. Canada

    I think it's because they're in the public eye so much, that it's driving them nuts, so to speak. They'll try wreck it all, in order to be free; I guess.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  84. andrew in pinehurst, nc

    These people do not choose to throw it all away. Sports stars, politicians, and other public figures are placed in a vacuum by their managers, they are praised by the media, and they begin to buy in to their celebrity status. Before long they are untouchable. They are secluded. They become depressed. Before long they are looking for intimate and personal confirmation to re-enforce the euphoria they experience when in the spotlight.

    Jack, this isn't a great story, this is a sad fact. Tiger and his family need professional help. They don't need the press, who are looking for euphoria from attention, themselves. I know that you think Tiger is public domain, so I assume that you must think the same of yourself.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  85. Pedro J. Colon

    The men think they can get away with their adulteries because the women involved had made believe they are trust worthy, no it is that the men think that those women are greater lovers, but the security that the women place in the secret to keep it going

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  86. Lisbeth

    Ask Sigmund Freud and his friends – I think they would say it is BECAUSE they risk it all, that they do it.

    Either they enjoy it more when it is risky, and cannot think straight.

    Or they find themselves in a bizzar lifestyle they want to get out of, but dont know how, and being found out is the "salvation".

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  87. Fes

    Because those carefully polished images, though tarnished can always be re-polished in our "easy to forgive as long as you entertain me" society. For walking Egos like Tiger Woods they weigh the cost, for them the costs are low knowing the public is easily distracted and quick to forget Time heals old wounds.... Case in point Kobe Bryant, Robert Downey Jr, Christian Bale – Bad boys whose sins have been long forgotten. Wait till Tiger starts whuppin up on folks on the course again, this will all be a distant memory. Need I say more

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  88. Jeff B

    Well jack, i really don't think they all choose to throw it away. They are all just stupid enough to think that they can get away with it...... Remember the story of Adam and Eve... Its simply called"temptation "And let me tell you something.. it gets the best of most, in all kinds of different ways...

    December 9, 2009 at 7:24 pm |
  89. Brian

    Call me a Tiger sympathizer if you will but cutting to the chase....
    Has anybody heard of sex addiction? Its a real probem that is difficult to find help for.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:25 pm |
  90. Carrie Morris

    One could say that these troubled celebs and public figures who experience their fall from grace don’t have much of a choice. They are victims of idol worship and have been groomed to believe the rules don’t apply to them.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  91. Vincent

    Its the Superman mentality Jack. Too Many successful people think that they are totally invincible. They believe they get away with anything and they think their money is the answer to everything. Its only after they fall, that they realize that they and are in fact mortal themselves.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  92. Ramy

    It's poetic justice. Most people who actually work for their money are less likely to lose it, such as Warren Buffet or Bill Gates. Those in the sports and entertainment industry, who are obscenely over paid, are far more likely to waste it away, like Tiger Wood, Michael Vicks, Britney Spears, Amy Winehouse and about a thousand more in the last year alone.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  93. Johnny Elton

    Jack, men through all caution out the door when it comes to pretty women. Do you think Adam through it all away for an apple?

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  94. Aaron Peavler From Bliss Idaho

    Tiger is turning into a crackpot with Christmas coming people can go off the deep end. It is stress just stress Tiger needs to take a brake.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  95. C. Farrell, Houston, Tx

    Their marriages in most cases are in trouble anyway and they know they are financially doomed whether they leave, stay or file for divorce so they just have fun while they are famous.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  96. Raul Salazar

    Lust is a powerful feeling; it can make smart people make terrible mistakes. How do we know Woods was happy with the life he had? With his wife? With his money?

    Just cause he had a successful career doesn't mean he has it all. I don’t think he threw it all away. Many of the alleged mistresses are probably just trying to make a name by saying they had an affair with Woods. I think people are judging him too soon, when we shouldn't be judging him at all.

    We all make mistakes; one doesn’t need to be successful to throw it all way. The reason we make such a big deal about this is cause we like to see successful people making mistakes, and we like to see how what we believe to be their "perfect lives" crumble down.

    Raul Salazar
    Monterrey, Mexico.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
  97. Jim Green, TX, www.Inclusivism.org

    Jack....How many of us have had a spat with our spouse and backed into a neighbor's tree.....probably runs into the millions....it just never makes the news–and rather than being on self-destruct –when acting like the rest of us it gets on the national new.....

    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  98. Rick Denson

    It's simple Jack. You cannot put the words rational and raging hormones together and expect the same answer in each encounter by a man and woman. Man can put control and limits on allot of things especially physical things but unlike money, cars, clothes, homes... ect. Men and Women cannot totally control their emotions. Once the hormones begin to rage you are threw. It's that simple. Advanced education, Psychologists, maturity, legal threats, good job, good family, good home, living in the White House, Martha’s Vineyard, or the even the local Trailer park will not exclude you from this undeniable fact. Most strive for monogamy and perfection in Marriage but many fail because our own hormones drive us crazy. The best advice anyone can take is in the initial moments of attraction is ... run, run, run. It's your only safe bet.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  99. George Holman

    Because ego blinds us to the realities of life. We all believe that get away with it, and no one will will ever know.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  100. Kevin in LA

    I do not think greatly successful individuals make risqué choices out of ignorance or a conscious decision to "throw it all away". I do however support the notion that success has an overwhelming potential to breed an unquenchable desire for the excesses of life. Nothing is off limits for them, be it money, cars, property, access to information, the influence of key public figures, or a wide variety of discretionary indulgences. Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  101. Olga B. W.

    I have asked that question myself. Sometimes men with power and success become self absorbed. It is all about them, look at me look at all I have accomplished. They need their ego constantly reassured. They forget they did not get there alone that there was always someone else with them. They can become so arrogant that they truly believe they will never get caught because they are really that good. It is sad that they put it all at risk, their marriage, their success, their children and jobs. In living like this they ruin the trust that others had in them and they create many victims. They victimize their families, careers, the people they had the affairs with (although recently I think they are actually the only ones that benefit) and they victimize themselfs. All because they could not think on anything farther than their nose. O.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  102. Jordan

    My answer is, "when you get to the top, there is nothing there". I would also say that we all make mistakes. Here is a question for you. Why should I care about Tiger Woods' personal life? There are far more important subjects that you could be covering as a news station, but instead, we are discussing another unnecessary distraction similar to "balloon boy" and the "white house party crashers".


    December 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm |
  103. Patrick (Philippines)

    Tiger's image problem is temporary, especially in the United States. All he needs to repair it is win. Nobody remembers Kobe's indiscretions now. And if Sanford can beat an impeachment, Tiger can surely get out of this bogey.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm |
  104. Richard

    The problem is not theirs but society's. If America is the land of the free then why can't two consenting adults indulge in a little fornication? Is it religion once again? I thought we were a secular society.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm |
  105. Jim Lovelady

    Tiger is receiving the modern version of "The Scarlet Letter".
    How will it be displayed? How will he have to wear it for the rest of his life? Will his small children ask him questions about the letter?
    Did it hurt?
    Will it heal?
    Are you okay now?
    Do you still love me?
    My answer to your question is, "Did commit "suicide by media" as some people commit "suicide by cops"?
    I think what he reportedly has done is wrong, despicable, and, yet is still subject to forgiveness by all? The real victims here are obviously his children and close loved ones? Not me personally.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm |
  106. samson Kamara

    We are of the opinion that famous people feel that they are super humans and would get away with any thing and so they will act without thinking about the consequencies to themselves and their interests. Money makes them blind to any act be it legal or illegal.Let the law bring them down from coo coo land.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm |
  107. Salim Abdullah

    Simply put Jack, the sexual appetite is the strongest appetite there is,it causes rational thinking to be ignored!! NY.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm |
  108. Joseph Kavanaugh

    I bet we could put counrty music to this one...lol

    December 9, 2009 at 7:29 pm |
  109. Cindy Jenkins

    Regarding the question as to why successful people do this...
    Not being a professional or being accurate, I think a lot of them do not intend for it to happen, they get caught up in our society telling them how great they are and they start believing it and that starts the Narcisism. (sorry about the spelling) I think they are told so many times how much we love them, they think they can do no wrong and really believe they have total control. They are referred to as the "Golden Ones" because they do no wrong and if they do, its not that bad because THEY are so unique! The truly great ones own up to it and take their punishment, not punish those around them!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:29 pm |
  110. Jeff Crayton

    Simply, because celebrities are human too. How rich, or famous, or well known a man is when he falters only serves to emphasize why we should never idolize these guys to begin with. A great golf swing doesn't mitigate the compulsion to stray.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:29 pm |
  111. Johnny Elton from Santa Fe, TX

    Jack, some men through all caution to the wind when it comes to a pretty woman. Do you think Adam through it all away for an apple?
    Some things will never change.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:29 pm |
  112. Angie

    The majority of people throwing it all away are Married men.

    And what is it that they throw it all away for?

    Having affairs, cheating on their spouses, committing adultery.

    What would be a solution?

    I don't know, but when you come up with one, Let us all know.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
  113. Aaron Peavler From Bliss Idaho

    We are not talking Sara Palin we are talking Tiger woods Like I said it is stress.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
  114. Russ in Colorado

    Millions of ordinary people through it all away too but they don't make the news. Tiger Woods is human. If all this is true, then he's an idiot just like the millions we will never hear about.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
  115. michael armstrong sr. TX.

    Jack why dont news reporters ever get caught up in scandel's Is it because of a honer your fellow reporter thing.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
  116. chris north bay ont. canada

    Jack...what I'd like to know , where was his posse, you know, the guy's that are looking out &after him.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
  117. ella

    The bad part about it, they throw it all away because of these uneducated gold diggers.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:31 pm |
  118. Fally

    People don't care about how many, or what types of females did Tiger Wood have sex with. Our brothers and sisters are dying in Afghanistan, and the main headline on the new media is about some male dog in musk.
    Fally, Tyler, TX.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:31 pm |
  119. David Costelloe

    For many men the pursuit of success is to fill an unconscious emptiness. When the success & fame is achieved the unconscious hole is not filled and the man tries to cover the disappointment or sense of unfulfilled feelings with sex, drugs, booze, rage, food or whatever works, temporarily!! Tiger was sold to the media from the age of 2 by his military father....not a million miles from M Jackson story, eh??

    December 9, 2009 at 7:32 pm |
  120. Dianne

    A better question is why do you think as a citizen of the USA at this time , that this is important? Why not seek one that is to emulate is among one's family and friends? Stop feeding envy and jealousy.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:33 pm |
  121. Aaron Peavler From Bliss Idaho

    Tiger is Tiger He is not Donald Trump

    December 9, 2009 at 7:33 pm |
  122. Laura

    Power and success can blind people. He probably felt like an invincible teenager, who yes, cannot be touched and is so special they would never get caught. Oh yeah, and men are idiots :-D.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:34 pm |
  123. tv from lv

    Jack, in Ensigns case, he hires sycophants and then he believes what they say. Then when they say what they believe, he believes they should be gone. I would hate to be looking in The same mirror he does and see the Picasso grotesqueness he must see.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:34 pm |
  124. ambrose

    Success is like an opium somehow it intoxicates.most successful men like to literally feel the taste of success this is human nature . most times the only way that comes to their mind is to engage in dishonorable behaviours such as keeping several mistresses.only few succesful men are able to successfully sustain success

    December 9, 2009 at 7:34 pm |
  125. hondo

    The reason these men through it all away... it is because ALL MEN ARE DOGS!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:35 pm |
  126. Homeless D

    Being successful does NOT mean a person is good, or has morals.

    And in our society being "successful" brings so much adulation that it tends to make the person feel he or she DESERVES to be able to do whatever they want.

    So, in their eyes their every wish is to be fulfilled no matter what.

    They just see nothing wrong in doing whatever they want, and if never caught they don't throw anything away at all. And so many never get caught.

    I'm inclicned to think it is the stupid ones who both get caught and have the attitude that they are above rules.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:35 pm |
  127. Adam in Mt. Pearl, Canada

    Throw WHAT away??? So he gets tagged for $300 mil in a divorce: Gee, I hope he can scrape by on the remaining $700,000,000+! And is God going to take away his talent for putting golfballs in tin cups and making even MORE millions?

    Last time I checked, Bill Clinton, Kobe Bryant, Bill Cosby and ELIOT SPITZER were doing just fine!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:35 pm |
  128. ginger riggs

    Tiger Woods indisgretions are the icing on the cake for the american morals. Does he remember his father striving for his son so he could play a sport dominated by white players. He worked hard to get where he was. We have children that watch him and look up to him. The politicians and sports figures for instance take advantage of a situation that they feel they are above everyone in this country and overseas. Either their money will pay them out of a bad situation or the people that know of their indiscretions can be paid off. Where is their self respect?

    December 9, 2009 at 7:37 pm |
  129. Dale Huffman, Gallatin, TN

    They throw it all away because none of it fills the emptiness inside. Not that they know that, they think they are trying to fill their lives with the excitement they had when they were young.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:37 pm |
  130. Mark (Beiing China)

    Tiger :

    Always was and always will be what he is : Being caught does not change the underlying true character:: He is not what PGA, Nike, Buick, his wife or Steve Williams say he is: Those all have huge vested interests in spinning and endorsing the perception, and quite naturally and understandably so.

    Tiger like everyone (some better than others) has learned to portray a persona that works for him (Dale Carnegie and other personality modification strategies.) For famous people even their foundations for charity are part of the Dale Carnegie persona angle.

    Most likely those 11 ladies have a more objective input as to what his true nature is toward people at a personal level when not playing for the camera or how he would NATURALLY behave if he had the pleasure of OBSCURITY.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:38 pm |
  131. Carrie Morris

    P.S. At least Tiger's predecessors were a bit smarter: one woman and indiscretion at a time...

    December 9, 2009 at 7:38 pm |
  132. Esther Massillon Ohio

    if it was me i would do the same things except with me

    December 9, 2009 at 7:38 pm |
  133. John, Zihuatanejo, Mexico

    Bernie Madoff and Tiger are chased by the same demon, Fraud. In their hearts, some men know they are not what people think they are. They know they are frauds, and subconsciously want to be caught and punished. Recklessness is their cry for justice. They often, but not always, get it.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:38 pm |
  134. Joseph Kavanaugh

    I have no money, I cheated, got divorced 16 years later. I f your not happy at home, you will stray!!

    Postal Joe
    Rock Hill Ny

    December 9, 2009 at 7:38 pm |
  135. Teresa

    This is about Tiger Wood.

    It seems that very popular people will eventually be condemned later by the media, and then when they reach rock-bottom they will be resurrected. Look at Michael Jackson; his death made him more popular then ever. It is sad, but we live in a strange media environment. We love to build up people, to tear them down later regardless of what they are doing.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:40 pm |
  136. Moustapha

    They throw away simply because they are not rational. Maybe when someone like Tiger have the spotlight, they lose their brain.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:40 pm |
  137. miguel

    Jack,why did Adam allow Eve to entice him ? It's the apple stupid.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:41 pm |
  138. Bennie

    If Tiger Woods would've maned up and told the golf industry
    exactly how he feels about them Tiger-proofing all the golf courses preventing him from breaking Jack 's record- He would have been more relaxed and released his stress in another way. Not winning a major this year was very stressful for him

    December 9, 2009 at 7:41 pm |
  139. Sonja

    Mid-life crises, Jack. I have seen it happen in my life and family many times. They turn 45 and away they go! Is it a need to grab the youth they have left? Do they feel they have lost that youth? Do they have a need to feel attractive by other women/men? Boredom from same ol', same ol'? It's hard to believe that the people who we have seen in the media; that have let it all go in search of youth and "is this all there is" syndrome, but they have the same needs as others.
    Very sad but true.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:43 pm |
  140. Laura

    In order to even be that successful, you have to be a little bit of a risk-taker to begin with.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:43 pm |
  141. Paul

    It's simple, Jack. They're stupid.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:47 pm |
  142. GodofComments

    Modest and poor people who are catapulted into stardom never are prepared for success when they are children. They ONLY recognize the illusion of importance that is associated with fame and the disgraceful downfalls they see in the public are easily overlooked as happing to the person and not because of their character, personality and behavior.

    On one of the messages we hear Tiger having to announce his name to one of the girls. He doesn't realize how important he is—imagewise. He was deluded.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:48 pm |
  143. Cindy

    These celebrities and sports players feel "untouchable." I think they try to see how far they push their limits-why Tiger would act like such a horny pig when he's such a role model to so many people. He has a beautiful wife and life...I'm not going to feel the least bit sorry for him.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:49 pm |
  144. Steve

    Men will be men – viva la differance

    December 9, 2009 at 7:49 pm |
  145. Cliff

    Those that have been hurt the most out of things like this are the young people you have looked up to the celbs as a way to live your life.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:50 pm |
  146. Maria

    I went through something similar. He wasn't raised a normal life.
    When temptations come around, they're helpless. He didn't think with his head, but with lust. He may need professional advice.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:50 pm |
  147. Duane Lykins

    Everryone believed he was super squeaky clean. He had a beautiful family and thru it all away. for what. His father must be rolloing in his grave!!!!!!!!!!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:51 pm |
  148. Kate Lerner

    I think it's the drive to shake off unreal expectations. Everyone knows none of us is perfect and we shouldn't follow others. Good examples are one thing but there is only one force capable of divinity and that's the creator itself.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:51 pm |
  149. Bob

    With such interest on protecting the "sancticty of marriage", why hasn't their marriage license been revoked. He has made a total mockary of marriage. Not only did he make a fool of his wife, he turned her into a prostitute by offering her money to stay with him. Please!!!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:52 pm |
  150. Jason Lennerth

    If you imply he is risking his career for this affair you are assuming Tigar's billion dollar empire isn't enough to live the rest of your/his life on. Once you have a net worth of a billion dollars, money isn't a factor in decisions anymore.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:52 pm |
  151. victtor

    I honestly believe that Tiger thought he would never be discovered or did he want to be caught? Sometimes people get so caught up in a web that their only way out is to be caught. I don't know if Tiger wanted this to occur but it did. This is diffidently going to be a hard lesson for Tiger to bounce back from....unfortunately. With that being said I believe Tiger should try to work things out with his wife and family. Then get to work as soon as possible. Why? Tiger needs to face the public and answer some hard questions. By doing this sooner than later, will allow the healing process to begin. Having Tiger on the sidelines for a lenghty period of time would only allow for the negative media frenzy to continue. Tiger should hold a news conference followed by a few talk shows in order clear the air and start moving forward with his single life or better yet his family life.

    December 9, 2009 at 7:54 pm |
  152. Nicole C.


    The reason is that Tiger (like all other men) are HUMAN and are prone to making mistakes. The only difference between Tiger and the average joe on the street is social status...and if the media gave a daily account of every man or woman that's cheated on their spouse, we would no longer have time for REAL news!

    December 9, 2009 at 7:54 pm |